Take the time and energy for yourself and your loved ones

Take the time  for your loved ones

Why is it so often that it is the most near and dear to our people less of all goes to our affection, warmth, love and attention? After all, it would seem that the opposite must happen, the closer and dearer to you the more love and gratitude you feel. But often as it turns out – if a stranger, we will smile, try to hide their problems and troubles, to speak in a very polite and courteous. So they came home and began. The children can break away and yell, well, what the husband(wife) will get it, usually, includes many married couples just into a daily habit, in a familiar background.

And often this happens for one simple reason – due to the fact that we get tired and never knew when to relax, relieve fatigue and relieve stress.

But then, yelling at each other, or just ripping off the tired and irritated, we begin to greatly regret it. Well, if people can come up and apologize, to explain their behavior: "I'm Sorry I snapped at you, you here at anything. Just today was a hard day, I'm very tired, so could not help it". Or: "Excuse me, dear. The day I'm so tired, so many things have accumulated over the week and children today, something particularly highly get up to mischief, so he take it out on you".

In this case all becomes on the places, loved one understands that he is not guilty, can ask about your problems, to help you with something to cope or just to be there, to give you a chance to relax, have a massage, or to work with children.

But in any case, it is not necessary to abuse such outbursts and then apologizing and experience the feeling of guilt. Better to avoid it. But here's how to avoid it, you ask, as sometimes there is no minute to sit down, relax and unwind?

Actually there are plenty of opportunities to fatigue and irritation accumulating.

First

Take the time  for your loved ones

Never believe what you "there is no minute to rest." Often things like that says to you your guilt, when you, even when you are home alone and can't drop everything, sit in a comfortable chair with a Cup of tea and relax for at least 10 minutes. And especially your sense of guilt is not can you afford to lie on your favorite couch, covered by a warm blanket and take a NAP at least 20 minutes.

And after all this rest in the middle of the day not only relieves fatigue, but also allows you to take a fresh look at those "urgent things" that supposedly need to be redone "right now in urgently".

Even when you are sitting at home with the kids, do not miss the opportunity and putting the kids in the afternoon to sleep, be sure to relax with them. Believe me, the mountain of dirty dishes and restorannye things can wait until better times.

Second. 

Take the time for your loved ones

If you have no opportunity to spend the afternoon at home (you work), you can come at lunchtime to get together and walk down the street, first disable the cell phone, because you have lunch and it is within your legal time to rest.

Do not deprive themselves of their legal stay! For lunch time to eat, take a stroll in the nearest Park to work or the Park, or stroll through the courtyards and listen to the birds singing, look up and admire the clouds. Here is rest! If you would like to arrange a vacation every day, believe me, your fatigue will gradually recede and disappear, and in its place will come a fresh look at the world, energy and desire to live and proceed.

As important every 40 minutes to do a small break from work. If the work is sedentary, get up and walk over to the Cabinet, pour tea, go into the ladies ' (men's) room and do a little workout shoulders.

And what can we say about the fact that evening walk to house at least a couple of stops on foot. Or not to sit in a jam-Packed transport and walk not on the main line and in yards.

If you are driving, it is possible to leave the car two blocks to your house, find Parking, and morning and evening to give yourself a great opportunity to move more and breathe fresh air.

Sometimes people can't afford to stay because of the desire to be a "victim", evening to be an opportunity to complain and to be a kind of sympathy to relatives and friends. I have to say, rather questionable way to get attention, and hence the energy of other people. But this is the place to be, and need to work with your self-esteem, learn to accept love and attention to themselves not through pity, but through a normal manifestation of the feelings of others.

Third. 

Take the time for your loved ones

Returning home that evening, and in the middle of the day too, try to focus thoughts on good things in your life. You can say that this method has nothing to do with the rest? Actually this method has a direct relationship to rest and not to accumulate negative emotions and feelings. As it often happens, everything seems in order, as he repeatedly falls on their loved ones, constantly dissatisfied with something, because something is going through and so on. And often this is due to the fact that it turns negative thoughts into your head, focusing not on what is good in his life, and feelings about, and how it will be in a week, a month, a year, two and so on. These thoughts take a lot of energy, the person feels tired and drained. The less energy and strength, the more you are vulnerable to external circumstances. And now any occasion can make you angry.

So don't stress yourself like that again, then blame yourself that unfairly took it out on the people close to you.

Try for a day to find at least 10 reasons you are grateful for this world and list them in writing or even verbally, to myself. Can do it in the morning, when eating at work. Can think about it at lunchtime. And be sure to remember all the good night, before you go in your house.